One day when my boss made a joke about my body, I spoke up and told him in front of several colleagues that I thought he was out of line.
I told him what he's doing is sexual harassment.
He never did it again, but he also never spoke to me again.
See? That's what I'm worried about.
I want him to stop, but I don't want to cause a scene.
Well, sometimes you don't have a choice.
You can't let this guy get away with it.
But is it really sexual harassment?
Could he just be a rude person?
If he comments on your appearance or body or if he asks questions or comments about your personal life, that's considered harassment.
You have a responsibility to stop him so he doesn't do it to someone else.
Yeah, I guess so. But what should I do?
You can report him to a superior, but before you do that, maybe you should confront him first.
I suggest you look Kevin right in the eye and clearly and slowly tell him that you want him to stop touching you and commenting about your appearance.
Don't smile or joke—this should be a serious conversation.
When you finish speaking to him, just walk away and let him think about it.
And if it happens again?
Then you report him to company supervisors.
If they are smart they will take care of it, otherwise, they know they could get sued.
No one likes a lawsuit.
Could I maybe write him a letter?
I'm not good at face-to-face confrontation.
That could work as well.
Or, if you'd like, I'd be happy to stand with you when you talk to him.
Might be nice to have some support... And I'd be a witness as well.
Thanks, Jessica. You're a real friend. I'm sorry to drag you into this.
Not at all. We ladies have to stick together right?